You do not have to be good

It’s the first line of one of my favorite Mary Oliver poems: “You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves...” What relief in this message!! My internal dialogue is so often structured around ideas of should and shouldn’t, right and wrong, good and bad. I hold myself to impossible standards, and rake myself over the coals for minor and imagined infractions. It’s a painful way to live, as though you have a controlling, judgmental parent following you around, ordering, berating, forever withholding approval. No wonder so many of us resist and procrastinate

The Great Pause

Practice is more vital than ever in this time, my friend dubbed "The Great Pause."  It’s been a valuable and rich opportunity to reflect on our patterns, individually and collectively. To that end, I recommend Charles Eisenstein’s provocative essay, The Coronation. He is just the combination of realist and visionary we need right now. And he is not offering answers- it is too soon for that- we need to marinate longer in the wonder-space important questions open. This is an incredible opportunity to change the unconscious, destructive course we have been on, and ask ourselves: What do we most value? Where are we going? What are the externalities- the costs- of our fevered consumption? How can

It's OK to be OK

Dear Ones, These days I am finding it helpful to remember the Buddha's encouragement that it is OK to be happy even when big stuff is going down! “Live in joy, in love, even among those who hate. Live in joy, in health, even among the afflicted. Live in joy, in peace, even among the troubled. Look within, be still. Free from fear and attachment, know the sweet joy of the way." ― Gautama Buddha I've noticed that I (and many of my girlfriends in particular) carry a burden of guilt for not doing enough or being able to help as we would like, and this voluntary suffering helps no one.  I'm not suggesting you plaster a smile over real feelings, or take a spiritual bypass to indifference

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